Areas of Focus
People arrive here for different reasons. Some are in the middle of a major life transition while others have been holding onto threads of tension for a long time. My work tends towards these main themes.
Life Transitions
Big changes are unfolding. Some are within your control and some are not. Your boat has been rocked and you’re not sure what to make of the next era of your life. Or perhaps you are the one who wants to make a major change and need somewhere to explore the possibilities. These times in life can be fraught with stress, anxiety, and indecision. It’s okay to not know how to move forward yet but you will find your way.
Working with Men
Loneliness, isolation, and depression seem to linger and you aren’t sure where to safely talk about it all. Yet, finding words for it is very challenging. You are trying so hard to keep everything together and you want to feel understood. You feel disconnected from yourself and others and may be struggling with numbing activities which end up leaving you more lifeless and longing. You need a space to not have to hold it all together or have all the answers.
Complex Trauma
You want to make sense of things because relationships feel so difficult to navigate. You feel dissociated or distant much of the time and feel different than other people in a way you just can’t put your finger on. Hyper-vigilance is constant, though that word doesn’t explain the felt experience of unease you struggle with daily. You’d like to feel more settled in your body but don’t know where to start.
Couples Work -
Communication and Intimacy
You and your partner are struggling. Despite your best efforts neither one of you is feeling understood and the same fighting patterns repeat and repeat. You need someone to softly intervene and slow down the process so you can both feel heard. You and your partner want to learn how to communicate better and become more aware of blindspots that cause gridlock.
You are just beginning this exploration or may be seeking a therapist who understands how it feels to be queer and/or consensually non-monogamous. You want to talk about all aspects of your life and not have to hide areas you fear your therapist just won’t understand. Sexuality is often a secretive experience but you need a place to talk openly about it and ask questions.
Queer Identity / Sexuality
Emotionally Immature
Parents
You struggle with feeling comfortable around or cared about by your parents. Perhaps you’re considering a period of distance to reflect and learn new skills in boundary-setting. Whatever the case, things can’t go on like they have been. When you are around them you can sense in your body a feeling of shrinking, bubbling anger, or a depth of pain that’s hard to put words to.